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  • Emotional Intelligence-part 1

    April 29th, 2011

    The Heart-Brain Connection

    This is the first part of a series I am writing on the topic of emotional intelligence.  I decided to write about emotional intelligence, the source of which is heart intelligence, after reading many posts on social media websites that indicated, from my viewpoint, that emotional intelligence and it’s importance in our lives and organizations is clearly misunderstood by many people.

    In the book, Executive EQ, the authors state that a high price has been paid by trying to disconnect emotions from intellect. I have personally experienced this divide and it has sparked in me, a quest to understand why there seems to be such a reluctance in the workplace to fully accept and integrate the power of emotional intelligence.

    I will begin by saying, the gap between mental and emotional intelligence has not always been part of the human psyche. In fact my research found that ancient people like the Mayans, Aztec and Kogi have always believed the heart to be the core of all that is sacred about life. Furthermore, they believe it is through the heart that we connect to the source of all wisdom and intelligence. It was not until the 17th century that the human mind; it’s capacity to think and reason were elevated above the wisdom and intuitive capacity of the heart. From that time forward, academia has carried forth the message that IQ is the greatest indicator of human achievement.

    Scientists today have concluded that the human fetus has a heart beat before the brain is even formed. Wouldn’t this suggest that the heart’s beat is self initiated and precedes intellectual thought?  Science also reveals that the heart actually has it’s own intelligence system with nearly as many neurons as the sub-cortex of the brain. And rather than a one way communication, as was once believed, instead of the brain sending a message telling the heart what to do, the heart actually initiates messages not only understood by the brain, but also obeyed. While it is clear that there is a two way communication continuously flowing between brain and heart. Research now suggests that it may actually be the heart that is leading, not the brain.

    Even in the field of sales and marketing, we know that people make decisions emotionally rather than logically, and so we speak to the benefits more than features. Why then is it so difficult to accept that reasoning and decision-making, and emotion and feelings intersect?  Or that emotional intelligence, which is the ability to sense, understand and align the power and intelligence of the heart to the reason and intellect of the mind, is a skill critical to human success?

    In the next post, I will discuss the value of bringing emotion and intellect into greater harmony to heighten our ability to effectively manage our lives and work.

    References:

    Robert K. Cooper, PhD & Ayman Sawaf, Executive EQ: Emotional Intelligence in Leadership and Organizations (1997)

    Institute of Heart Math, Science of the Heart (2001)

    Tribute to Mothers

    April 25th, 2011

    This morning while planning my weekly schedule, I noticed that Mother’s Day is just around the corner. As I thought about my own mother and all she has meant to me and the rest of our family, I couldn’t resist taking a few minutes to express my appreciation. Mom, you are loved so very much! This video is dedicated to you for all the unconditional love, encouragement and support you have given through the years.

    How Personal Excellence Leads to Business Success!

    April 6th, 2011

    While planning this article on excellence, I had a personal “consumer experience” that is so appropriate I decided to share it here because it perfectly illustrates the point I am making.

    I had taken my granddaughter to a doctor appointment because my daughter was unable to leave work.  They live about an hour away so after the doctor appointment, I had to wait for the prescriptions to be filled at the local pharmacy before returning home with my granddaughter who is only 7 years old.  The first time I checked with the pharmacy about 4:30pm, the prescriptions, sent electronically from the doctor’s office, had not arrived.  We went to have some dinner and returned about 5:30; still no prescriptions. The pharmacy technician told me to try calling the doctor’s office, which I did.  However, the office was closed so I was not able to speak with anyone. After explaining, yet again, that we had been waiting since leaving the doctor’s office at 4:15 pm and lived an hour away so it was not possible to go home and come back.  The pharmacy representative told me I could call the after- hours clinic and see if they could resend the prescriptions, or call them in. I called the after-hours clinic, only to be placed on hold for over twenty minutes.  By this time it was 6:15 pm and we had been waiting two hours.  Finally after hanging up and trying a different number, I reach a nurse and explained that there had been a problem with the prescriptions and she agreed to call them in to the pharmacy for me.  When I arrive back at the pharmacy window, believing I would now be able to get the medication and get my granddaughter home for her breathing treatment, the pharmacy rep then proceeded to tell me they had received the prescriptions, but now there were many other people ahead of me, so I would have to wait another 30 plus minutes.  After waiting for the prescriptions a little over three hours, we were finally headed home, another hour drive ahead.  However, the ordeal was not yet over.  The next morning, I received a call from the pharmacy.  It seems there were four prescriptions rather than the three that were filled.  The fourth prescription had arrivedlater in the evening, but they weren’t able to contact me.  There was no explanation as to why this had happened.

    This is a prime example of the opposite of excellence.  Throughout the process described above, there were many opportunities for those involved to step over the line from average to excellent.  First, since the appointment with the doctor was the last one of the day, the person placing the prescription with the pharmacy could have called it in to ensure it was received.  At the very least, they could have followed up to make sure the electronic submission was received by the pharmacy.  And, they could have informed me that since it was closing time, the after-hours clinic could help me if there were any problems with the prescriptions.

    At the pharmacy, the representative knew the circumstances because I had gently explained to her when she first suggested I go home and wait until they sent me a text message that the prescriptions were ready.  When the prescriptions still hadn’t arrived on my second trip to the window, the pharmacy rep could have said she would call the after-hours clinic for me.  I discovered later that the pharmacy has a direct line; they don’t have to wait on hold like I did.  And finally, after waiting two and one-half hours, the pharmacy representative could have checked to see if the prescriptions could be expedited, under the circumstances, rather than ask me to wait another 30 min. or more.  Remember, by this time I had been waiting in the parking lot with a sick child in the back of my car for several hours.

    It only takes a little extra effort to be above average. Yet, despite the many opportunities none of the individuals in this scenerio even attempted to be above average.  Excellence in’t perfection. Excellence is defined as: the state or quality of excelling.  Particularly in the field of business and organizations, excellence is considered to be an important value, and a goal to be pursued.

    At 211°, water is hot. At 212°, it boils. That one extra degree makes all the difference. Are you content with just being pretty good? Or are you ready to go the extra degree and be excellent?  This short video clip is about the one extra degree that makes all the difference.  I hope you enjoy it!

      

    The Essence of Leadership

    February 22nd, 2011

    Welcome to the Leader’s Edge…

    I hope you enjoy and are inspired by this beautiful presentation.  I chose to begin with the essence of leadership because stepping into personal excellence is what leadership is really about.  You can be a leader of one, a leader of many, or simply the leader of your self.  The true test of leadership is not revealed in the leader’s position or ability to lead, but in the influence a leader has on his/her followers.

    What qualities of leadership would you like to cultivate in your life or work?  Have you identified what matters most to you (your core values)?  What is one simple step you can take now, to develop your leadership essence?